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Monday, February 5, 2024

The Gift of a Quandary

Life and its Quandaries... we must keep going. 
Photo credit: My husband

 



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Kathy King

The Gift of a Quandary


Life is a quandary.

Life can be a mess. 

There are days when you feel that all you could do is just catch a smidgen of rest. 

The day feels like you are trudging up a hill.

The mud and muck make it so difficult to even make it a few steps up that hill.

You see the mountain of debt that life has accumulated. 

Funds are low, you are not sure that you can make it. 

You just want to quit. 

You just can’t take it. 

When life hits you with those merciless blows. 

Remember dear readers, to stop, pray, and come to know.

That there are times when life hits us with all that it has. 

Keep going, keep trudging. 

Even when peace seems slow, keep looking up.

Success and failure, those words encompass quite a lot. 

One little twist, or an attitude that turns.

Could make all the difference between those two words

When you fall, sometimes you have to get up. 

Dust off those knees and learn to never give up.

That success may be closer than it seems. 

Keep walking on, dare to dream. 

It was once said by the poet, John Whittier:

“Success is failure turned inside out-

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,

Ad you never can tell just how close you are, 

It may be near when it seems so far;

So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit-

It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

For all the sad words of tongue or pen. 

The saddest are these: “It might have been!”

Listen, keep going dear readers and friends.  

We’ve often been told that things are darkest before the dawn.

If that is true dear readers, we must carry on.


What is a quandary? It is a state of perplexity. It is uncertainty in a given situation. How often do we walk through life in a quandary? I know I do a good bit. When I read the entire poem by John Whittier I had to take a moment and pause. He wrote about how life is strange with its twists and turns. But the words that really caught my attention were: “Life is strange with its twists and turns. As every one of us sometimes learns. And many a failure comes about. When he might  have had he stuck it out; Don’t give up though the pace seems slow- You may succeed with another blow.” That sums up life in so many words. The hard work, the meaningful work, the work that causes change. That work, that journey is what we are aiming for. Life seems so easy when we have a little computer in our hands. We have instant access to all the information that we could ever want. We can order things with a click of a button. We don’t even have to leave the house. While those conveniences are wonderful. Are they meaningful? When I started to read the life of John Whittier I was truly in awe. He was a Quaker, a poet, a politician and an abolitionist. He suffered not one, but two mental breakdowns. Yet he did not give up. He supported women writers when that was not an encouraged vocation. He was committed to being a good human to all. It is worth pondering if we as a society need to return to these ideas. These ideas and actions do not have to be momentous or full of pomp and splendor. But rather they can be small. Mostly, this particular poem shows that this soul despite his physical ailments he did not give up. He did not stop writing. He did not stop trying to be a good human. Life is a quandary for sure. But that quandary is very much a decision to keep going when we can hardly walk. I am reminded of the words of Epictetus: “No great thing is created suddenly.” Keep going through the quandary dear readers.   



Source: Poetry Foundation

John Greenleaf Whittier



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Wednesday, January 31, 2024

The Gift of Weeds and Wishes

I have shared this picture before. My husband took it when we were taking a walk. He saw a wish.

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Kathy King

“Some see a weed, some see a wish.”

Unknown



Some see a weed, some see a wish. 

It all depends on how you look at it. 

Life is about glasses, and how we see through them. 

They don’t have to be rose colored, but sometimes they can.

Sometimes those glasses show the test. 

The test that we must go through to achieve our very best. 

Some glasses are like a tea party. 

Warm and it restores normality.

Other times those glasses are stark to bring us to reality.

Sometimes our weeds are indeed someone else’s wish.

Life is so much about perspective. 

Sometimes our glasses cannot help us see that we are blessed. 

Clean those glasses with love and thankfulness.

Spray some cleaner on them and dust off the mess.

Give it a little dose of reality to see what we need to see.

But remember dear readers, those glasses of life are there to help us see.

When the dust builds up and the lenses fill up with life fingerprints.

We feel around and can’t see at our best. 

So remember friends when you can’t see your way.

Take a moment and clean those glasses, dust off those weeds. 

If you still see those weeds, blow them off.

Make a wish.

So you can see those hopes and dreams.


When you were little did you run and grab the dandelions and blow them to make a wish? That was such a fond memory of my childhood. That was carried on through our six children and more recently with our little grand girl. To see her blow the little flower and scream when things flew off was nothing short of delightful. She took such joy in what some folks seem to believe is a weed. That is the grand thought about life. Sometimes things do not have to be grandiose and full of pomp and circumstance. Those blessings can sometimes be small. In each situation you can see a weed or a wish. We all have our quirks as humans. That is for sure but have our lenses become so cloudy and dirty that we can only see weeds and not wishes? Or further, the blessings that are indeed there? Perspective makes a huge difference in life. If you have looked at something one way for a long time and it keeps you thankful that is wonderful. Oftentimes we get dirty and muddled through the trials and tribulations of life. Sometimes you have to dust off those glasses that see nothing but weeds as far as the eye can see and try on a new perspective. A new pair of glasses if you will. Perhaps then you will be able to see just how many blessings of life. I often talk about growing up in the church. I thought that I had heard every hymn imagined. I can play a lot of them without music because they are so ingrained in my head. When I was in my 20’s I heard a hymn called, “Make me a Blessing.” The first stanza says, “Out of the highways and byways of life, many are weary and sad. Carry the sunshine where darkness is rife. Making the sorrowing glad. Make me a blessing,” Ira Wilson’s words caught me at that time. So much of life is carrying the sunshine where those dark glasses are dirty and making the sorrowful glad. Do you see weeds or wishes? Even if it starts out as a weed, blow the little dandelion and make it a wish. It is all through those glasses dear readers. Selah.  


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The Case of the Missing Bumbly Wumbly Bee

The Case of the Missing Wellies

The Case of the Missing Honk Honk

The Case of the Missing Ornaments


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Friday, January 26, 2024

The Gift of Regretting Tenderly

Each day is a new day... to reflect tenderly. Photo credit: My husband



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Kathy King

The Gift of Regretting Tenderly


“How to hold regret tenderly: I wish that I would have done that differently, and at the time, I couldn’t”

Syanna Wand


Regrets, we all have them. 

Things we shouldn’t have said. 

Actions we have taken, things we have believed. 

Actions that have caused us dread. 

One of the wonderful things about life is that we can grow. 

We can learn from our past, our regrets, our sorrows, and plant new growth. 

All it takes is a willing spirit and a tender heart. 

A willingness to say, “I was wrong.”

Repent, say your prayers, trust in God’s grace. 

The willingness of spirit will cause you to embrace. 

Embrace the love, embrace the forgiveness, and the source of your regrets.  

Trust in the process, God knows best. 

Change that regret from a feeling of dread and hold it more tenderly. 

As the writer says, find a way to hold on to regret tenderly. 

Tell those who need to hear it, you wish that you had more tools at the time. 

Now you are older and wiser, and your heart is more kind.

Embrace the spirit to learn, to understand, and to have empathy. 

You will see life through a new looking glass. 

A glass that is full of sensibility. 


Do you ever sit in bed at night counting sheep and thinking of your regrets? I am sure that we all do. You wish that you could have said something differently. You could have handled a situation differently. You were in a bad mood that day so you were a bit snappy. I am convinced when our mood is out of place our glasses take on a different shade. The glass that speak, the glasses that think, the glasses that hear. The glasses that act. If we reflect on choices when we were younger we wear those glasses of naivety. It is a vicious cycle, is it not? Reflection and regret are necessary parts of life. They help us to be a better version of ourselves. If you are religious those moments allow you to lean on God’s discernment and grace for future circumstances. The funny thing about us humans? Well, we are a fickle bunch, are we not? Social media adds to that echo chamber of fickle. It is quite easy to find yourself in a space where the overarching theme is bitterness, unforgiveness, anger, malady, etc.. You name it, it is there. I believe that this little chamber just stirs more grit and dust into your cup of regret. When I was a little one, I loved to water paint. I had those little palettes that you could paint your masterpiece with ease. If you wanted to change the color you just dipped the brush in water. The water became a very cloudy and ugly gray and brown mixture. My brother would try to pass it off as chocolate milk (I am not kidding) and on one occasion I drank it. Well, needless to say it was awful and I spit it out and promptly told my mom. If you take those regrets they are much like those finger paints. You think about them over and over, the water becomes more and more dirty. When you have reached the end of your rope of anger.. Well, you take a drink. You think this drink will absolve you of your part in the circumstance. It will salve that regret. When you pick up the cup to drink, guess what. It tastes awful. That is why it is so important to practice self reflection. Forgiveness of both yourself and others. Give yourself and others some grace. Don’t let that water get muddy. Try your best to keep it clean. Those regrets are like the mischievous big brother. Once you keep dipping your brush in he will swoop in to try to get you to take a drink. Pour out the dirty water, clean your brush, clean your cup and move on. It will make all the difference in the world. In the words of David the Psalmist: Selah (Pause and think calmy on the subject.)


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The Case of the Missing Moo-Cow Bell

The Case of the Missing Bumbly Wumbly Bee

The Case of the Missing Wellies

The Case of the Missing Honk Honk

The Case of the Missing Ornaments


Clean it Up! Wash it Up!


Coming soon!

Appalachian Allegory: A Southern Novel


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Monday, January 22, 2024

The Gift of a Little Glimmer

Find that little Glimmer. Photo credit: My husband



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Kathy King


The Gift of a Little Glimmer


“Today I learned about a term called “glimmer.”

Which is the opposite of a trigger. Glimmers are those moments in your day that make you feel joy, happiness, peace, or gratitude. Once you train your brain to be on the lookout for glimmers, these tiny moments will appear more and more.”

Unknown


A Glimmer, a glimpse, a little flash of light. 

That is what a glimmer provides.

When you are in the tunnel that is devoid of light. 

That little patch of glimmer will shine like a beacon in the night. 

A Glimmer can be a small moment in your day that brings you joy, happiness, or a small smile to your face. 

Gratitude, peace, clearness of mind. 

That is what a glimmer provides. 

Train your mind when all seems grey, to find the spots of glimmer in each day.

Life is a process, sometimes a drudgery. 

That is why we must find glimmer, look for it, as if it were a need.

Once you train your mind to see glimmer, the dark tunnel will shine. 

This will lead you to the glorious light, one day at a time.


My husband and I were watching a popular comedian speak the other night about the state of life in the West at the moment. He said that he went to multiple Christmas parties during the holiday and he asked two questions, “Have you seen Woody Harrelson, he’s my ride.” The other was, “In 2024 I would like (fill in the blank.)” He said the overwhelming answer just about every single time was, “Sanity.” There are times that I do believe that social media can take away our sanity. Also, just thirty minutes of the news. That sanity can turn very dark, very quickly if we find ourselves in an echo chamber that is less than savory for any amount of time. What happens when we stay there? The light begins to flicker, the stars dim in their shine and we find ourselves in a tunnel that is darkness as far as the eye and the mind can see. When I was little I was told a great deal of the phrase, “You are what you eat.” The concept was explained that this does not only apply to the mouth but the mind, heart, soul, and spirit. If most folks truly want sanity in 2024 what do we do? We find those little spots of glimmer each and every day. We clean up our diet. We practice moderation. Too much of anything results in tiredness, lack of faith, empathy, the ability to see the blessing that is right in front of you. Glimmer involves seeing that small sliver of light when our glasses are smudged and not clean. That glimmer will clean your glasses and help you to see and find your sanity. Sure, there are days when all you can do is put one foot in front of the other. That is okay. But dear readers, try to find some sanity and glitter each and every day. On a personal note, I have been down. The World Wide Bug made its way back into almost all of my family. Myself included. I cried. I did. Big ugly crocodile tears. I had to dig, grab, reach in the dark until I could find some glimmer. That glimmer was fuzzy slippers, my husband bringing me soup and my son trying his best to cook a proper meal for us. That helped me dig out of the tunnel. Find some sanity. Find that balance of soul, mind, diet, spirit, etc.. and make glimmering a way of life. 


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The Quacktastic Adventures of Ellie and Lord Barks a Lot

The Case of the Missing Moo-Cow Bell

The Case of the Missing Bumbly Wumbly Bee

The Case of the Missing Wellies

The Case of the Missing Honk Honk

The Case of the Missing Ornaments


Clean it Up! Wash it Up!


Coming soon!

Appalachian Allegory: A Southern Novel


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Thursday, January 11, 2024

The Gift of Small Talk

I love snow... I do. For the first couple of days. Its purity makes me think of the tenacity of us humans... there can be beauty even when things are a bit cold. 



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Kathy King

The Gift of Small Talk


“People are are often unreasonable and self-centered.  Forgive them anyway. If you are kind people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.  If you are honest, people may cheat you.  Be honest anyway. If you find happiness,  people may be jealous.  Be happy anyway.  The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow.  Do good. Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway. For you see in the end it is between you and God.  It was never between you and them anyway.”  Mother Teresa.


How are you?  How is it going? Is a common phrase to say.

When greeting strangers, friends or acquaintances it is something that we all say. 

When you are asking or receiving this phrase. 

Pause, take a moment and try to find something to say that is uplifting, kind or even just a compliment.  

These small words may make an impact on another human’s day. 

Even when you ask and the answer is not great, remember you are making a small dusting of their spirit and soul.  

Take that moment and say, “You will be in my thoughts and I will pray for you.”.  

There is beauty in meaningful uncomplicated words.  

Put them into practice.  

Make those deposits into humanity.  

Your soul and spirit will benefit from these small changes in a meaningful way.  


*I wrote this back in 2022! I was sorting through musings earlier and thought… “Wow, my writing has changed.” The message is still the same. We humans can make the world a better place, even if it is for one person.


In our world the phrase “How are you?” has become basically meaningless.  The usual response is of course, “fine.” This phrase is used across many languages, the Germans say: “Wie geht es dir”  Or if you want to be formal, “Wie geht es Ihnen?” The French say, “Comment ca va?” That is just two languages.  It all actuality it has taken on the form of a greeting rather than an actual question.  I have asked several folks recently if they are actually going to answer honestly when they are asked how they are doing.  Most of the folks said they did not want to overwhelm people with their problems because they were indeed, not ok.  Others said they just thought it was just making small talk.  The last few years have been pretty trying for the world.  I would wager to say that we are not all feeling puppies and rainbows.  How do we take small talk and make the words meaningful talk? Try just giving a smile.  Compliment someone’s hair. Tell someone they have a lovely smile.  Tell folks I sincerely hope you are doing well, it has been a tough few years.  These words, these compliments actually do help a person to feel better.  Recently I read that each time someone receives a kind word or compliment the area of the brain that is triggered is the same area that is activated when someone receives a cash reward.  Giving a kind word can also help the giver.  Our brains are wired to focus on the negative.  This dates to prehistoric times when the brain was analyzing threats.  Giving compliments also can help us to retrain our behavior to be more positive in our approach to situations in life.  We can realign our thoughts to focus on the positive. Are there truly negative people absolutely but in the words of Mahatma Gandhi: “If you want to change the world, start with yourself.” 


Source: Fastime.com


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The Quacktastic Adventures of Ellie and Lord Barks a Lot

The Case of the Missing Moo-Cow Bell

The Case of the Missing Bumbly Wumbly Bee

The Case of the Missing Wellies

The Case of the Missing Honk Honk

The Case of the Missing Ornaments


Clean it Up! Wash it Up!


Coming soon!

Appalachian Allegory: A Southern Novel


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Wednesday, January 3, 2024

The Gift of Wintering

The Beauty of Wintering. The leaves, the growth will come again. 








The Prayer by David Foster. I was playing around on the piano this evening and this came to mind.

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Kathy King



The Gift of Wintering


“Think of yourself just as a seed patiently wintering in the earth; waiting to come up a flower in the Gardener’s good time, up into the world, the real waking.”

C.S. Lewis


You watch and pray, each and every day. 

You get on your knees and plead each day. 

You ask for answers, sometimes patiently, other times in distress. 

You know there is an answer. 

You know that patience and prayer is best. 

To believe in word, yes it is easy to do. 

But to have faith the size of a mustard seed. 

That sometimes seems absurd. 

Why do I have to believe? 

Why do I have to wait?

It is a struggle to wait and to pray. 

What does it mean to wait? 

To wait to stay where you are. 

It is so hard to do so, when all around you are surrounded with doubt. 

Don’t give up dear reader. 

You have planted the seed. 

Your seed is wintering at the moment. 

God sees your need. 

Continue in prayer, continue to seek. 

Water yourself with patience. 

Keep working and rest. 

Until you start to bud from the ground then let those roots spread out all around. 

Start to bloom, continue in prayer. 

The Gardiner is tending your requests, he will be there. 

You will bloom as you have never bloomed before. 


There is not much to elaborate concerning this particular little poem. There are so many folks praying for answers. Today alone there were so many requests that came via email. I did run into one lady today whose son was diagnosed with cancer in December. It was all over his liver. Immediately folks started praying. Before he received treatment he had another scan. Half of the cancer was gone. After several treatments almost all of the cancer was gone. When they asked the Doctor what he thought happened he calmly looked over and said, “There is power in prayer, I have seen it over and over. Keep praying.” For those of you who are looking for that answer, that way, that path. Keep praying. If you need prayer I will pray for you and ask others to do so if you desire. Keep the faith. It’s hard. Trust me. Thank you dear readers. 


My books are on Amazon!


The Quacktastic Adventures of Ellie and Lord Barks a Lot

The Case of the Missing Moo-Cow Bell

The Case of the Missing Bumbly Wumbly Bee

The Case of the Missing Wellies

The Case of the Missing Honk Honk


The Case of the Missing Ornaments


Clean it Up! Wash it Up!


Coming soon!

Appalachian Allegory: A Southern Novel


Buy me a coffee… pretty please… actually it would be a proper cuppa in my case. Thank you for reading! 


Patreon:

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The Gift of People Watching

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